When one is married to more than one that’s bigamy, a felony. When one is having an affair while with another, that’s adultery.

“A guy who’s got the chutzpah to try to pull the wool over somebody’s eyes. That’s a good definition of a bigamist,” said University of Cincinnati clinical psychiatry professor Linda Chernus. “One (spouse) is hard enough,” joked Chernus, who has researched bigamists and believes generally they have such low self-esteem that they marry multiple spouses to compensate with a sense of “grandiosity.” “They need to control women, to keep secrets and keep autonomy so no one knows what’s going on inside of them,” Chernus said. “There may also be some underlying insecurity. “(Bigamists) have a sense of invincibility that they can get away with this. They think they can get away with anything,” she said.

With that Marin County college teacher’s own version of Crazy Love, the consensus amount mental health professionals is that the vast majority of cross-dressing men are heterosexual, and that bondage, being tied up by an attractive woman during sexual intercourse, is the second most common male fantasy, with intercourse the first. There is also that aspect of crossdressing of developing a distinct second personalty.

Bigamy, adultery and double lives are all related. There was something missing in each person that drove them to become involved in it. For those lucky enough to have found and lived it, it is an addiction, a connection, a co-dependency equally as necessary as eating, drinking and breathing. It’s not only the tabloid’s Joey and Amy, it’s New York City’s Bert and Linda Pugach, it’s Hollywood’s Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, it’s San Francisco’s Gavin and “the Mayor’s Mistress”, it’s the Matirx’s Larry and “Isla, the Dominatrix,” (both now live in SF) it’s that Marin County college teacher with the bigamy charges, and it’s the rest of us who live Crazy Love over Vanilla Love. Once you’ve tried it, the taste will grow on you.

Here the problem is with these teachers that try or do it with KIDS!!!! Wrong, wrong, wrong. In the rigid school world, social and sexual identities cannot shift, and must remain hidden. Here something different has occurred though - two lives. More Marin County educators with double lives. Sausalito’s John Leary, the New College founder. Craig Benedict Lee on suspension as superintendent of the Lagunitas School District. Two San Rafael math teachers. Norm Burgos, a gym teacher and tennis coach at Tamalpais High School charged with sexual battery against a former member of the boy’s tennis team, and was arrested on a $75,000 warrant following an investigation by the Mill Valley Police Department. A former athletic trainer at Terra Linda High School charged with molestation. A Drake High basketball coach charged with peeping and acquitted in a mistrial. A Novato youth soccer coach fired after getting arrested on indecent exposure allegations in San Francisco. A coach charged with having sexual relations with two girls at the Marin Water Polo Club. Father Gregory Ingels of Marin Catholic High School. Wow. those Marin educators lead some very interesting lives. One comment wrote about Craig Lee has ‘I am not surprised at all. I had several problems with Craig Lee and was always uncomfortable around him. Igo Ono school is so much better with our new principal and a lot more safe. What isn’t being said is the law suit he had against him for allowing child molestation to go on at Platina school. He should have never been hired anywhere. I do feel sorry for his children and the children of his girlfriend. I hope he not only looses his career but that he is locked up for a long time.’